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We’ve been celebrating Libra szn this month; Ma‘rockstar, di’pyetla, chipi blynd, all you can eat buffet ntwana 😍

I’m sorry, it’s that Air sign supremacy 🤌

I have my own 25 lessons by 25 at the very end of this blog, but I’ll be showing you this month’s art and illustrating a concept first before getting into the grove of things.

Lessons

Did you know personality traits are transferrable through DNA? This means a lot of some of our traits, and some of the traits of our family members, were passed down from the generations before us, and them. This results in what is commonly known as generational patterns. The way to show love to those coming after us it to break these patterns, and we do this through learning and feedbacking.

We go through life, experience different things, and learn different lessons, which might be the essence of life; the journey of learning and unlearning, as my best friend always says.

However, avoiding a lesson only keeps you in a loop until you take responsibility for your learning and unlearning. 

In behavioural terms, a behavioural feedback loop would mean knowing certain information about our behaviours/personality causes a repetition or avoidance of such behaviour.

In computer programming language,

• A While statement checks the condition first before executing the code.
• A Do While statement on the other hand executes a set of instructions (code) first and then checks if it is true or false.
• What kind of loop runs the decision making in your life? Do you think before you act, or act then only think about how something aligns with you later? I’ll leave you with that.

A Do While statement is also dangerous because it can produce an infinite loop, meaning the code never stops running, unless stopped by some external means.

Humans are similarly also data analysing organisms, and in real life, it’s also easy to get stuck in infinite loops that harm us, from actions and behaviours we may engage in, as well as emotions we may get fixated on. Getting stuck may not mean the condition is truly good for us, but can be, just a bug; addictions and strongholds, attachments, insecurities, you name it. Many things could keep us rooted in places or things that don’t serve us anymore. however, seeing the loop and taking time to work on it, is what matters in the end.

The journey of learning and unlearning.

25 lessons by 25 

1. Worst thing to be in this world is to be a woman, and black.
2. Everything happens for a reason, even the tragedies. Time reveals all.  
3. Humans are the real pandemic.
4. With passing years and/or adversities, you’ll grow and gain more confident and content with yourself. Don’t give up on yourself yet, your light is waiting to shine. 
5. God 🙌.
6. You are not what anyone says you are, you are who you say you are. 
7. Every emotion you’ll ever feel is only human; never be ashamed for being human. And, feelings don’t always translate to what’s reality.
8. You will be gaslit a lot throughout life, as a woman, as a black person, and in many other spaces you may not expect it. Fight for yourself. 
9. If there’s anything that will get you places in life, it is confidence. Work on it. And when it’s lacking, my good sis Rihanna said it best, pretend. Fake it till you make it.
10. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Be you, do you.
11. You only lose the shots you don’t take. Take the risk, or lose the chance. Don’t let imposter syndrome hold you back.
12. Girls support girls.
13. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. 
14. Pay attention to the words you affirm over yourself and life. All religions and forms of spirituality (or the universe) have a central belief in a power of some sort; whatever it is, it is listening, as well as your dummy subconscious that’ll fulfil the prophecy. You’re always manifesting.
15. Never stop fighting for what’s right, even if it means standing alone. Remember, you’re never alone, especially for a just cause. 
16. Don’t judge a book by its cover.
17. Grief is a long process to go through. And even when you think it’s gone, it will find you on random days; it always remains. Like they say, evidence of an undying love. 
18. Speak. Speak, say what you want my love, and speak. The world is waiting to hear your voice.
19. Different strokes for different folks.
20. There’s a lot of pressure to have it together in your 20s. Breathe. Everyone older you meet will tell you still have so much ahead of you; you will get there in time. Breathe.
21. You have yourself for this lifetime. Ride hard for you. love you, respect you, and know your value in every space you enter. 
22. It’s a game, and every next level is harder as we enter different levels of life. 
23. Don’t put your life on hold or live it for the approval of men, they will choose themselves anyway. Patriarchy has far reaching roots and effects, and it won’t likely be away in our lifetime. Stand up for you, and other women.
24. Don’t just exist, live. Life proves to us every day how fragile and fleeting it is, it all won’t matter in the end, success or survival: live.
25. You’ll be alright 🤍 If it’s not alright, then it’s not the end yet, I promise you 🤞

As always, thank you so much for reading!