Hi! Welcome✨ I hope you had a great holiday, ready to rock the year or whatever! If you’re feeling in any way the opposite, I’m sorry; you’ll, hopefully, be fine.. go through the motions, and hold onto hope 🤍

Before I start blabbering, I stumbled upon this, and wanted to encourage you this 2022 to:

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken – Oscar Wilde

I’m a bit dumbfounded.. My first post went up on the 10^th of January 2021, and I’m now fulfilling a promise to myself to publish one blog a month for the year, which was considerably much harder than I had anticipated.

Thank you for reaching this point and huge milestone with me.. 12 months of writing: of changes, emotions and exploring. I believe in purpose, that there’s purpose in all things and people, and there’s purpose in this series of literature; I hope it always reaches the hearts of those in need of it.

I’ll bring her back again one sweet day, but for now, I hope you enjoy the last take 🎬

It’s a New Year, and while the calendar does its annual reset, unfortunately, our troubles, sorrows, the losses and failures, they, well they don’t. 

Life goes on.

So while the new slate doesn’t wipe off all the sads of former years, it does offer a chance at new perspective.

When a tragedy strikes, home or life in general gets filled with friends and family ready to provide support and offer a hand, other times rather lending to pry and chatter, but really, what endures is the noise, the loud distracting noise. It fills rooms and empty crevices of the heart in such stark contrast to the silence of it’s leaving after it all ends, the tragedy gets laid to bed; Life goes on.

I read somewhere: ‘Shelly Rambo had written of traumatic events that they “shatter all that one knows about the world & all the familiar ways of operating within it.” We move on, but life is not as it was.’

We move on, but life is not as it was.

Damn.

I was reminded of a scene from Sex Education recently when a girl was riding the bus, and a man that had seemed nice and smiled at her, masturbated onto her on the bus ride.

Nothing happened, everything went on as normal. So afterwards, she couldn’t get on the bus anymore. She couldn’t get on the bus.

(But ofc the girlies later helped her overcome it, which was a beautiful scene 🥺)

We’re allowed to feel certain ways, and although maybe not our doing, we can deal with some of these traumas/emotions, and adapt to our new world. We can also be more mindful as friends and bystanders, to create safe landings for others, because whilst we ‘move on’, for them, life is not as it was.

Since we’re entering into the new year, remember, sometimes the things people are dealing with may not necessarily be labelled as trauma. Everyone goes through something. Arguably, a string of failures/losses/rejections or any bad situations in any one year is enough to constitute some form of trauma, and we’ve all faced this in some way or form, especially over the last two years.

So, no matter how big or small the situations, as we enter the year,

1. Remember to be kind to yourself, to take time to mourn and grieve the year(s), feel what you feel, and set beautiful intentions for your year.
2. Know adaptability. Changes will be with us to death because that is the only constant. Some changes are heavy, maybe life changing, others are small changes, maybe over a day/months that only marginally affect us somehow, but we have to live with. Having a more accepting and determined mindset to overcome any changes/challenges you face  will always keep you going.
3. Be resilient. You’re a diamond, do.not.buckle.

The other thing about life after horror or a horrible year, is that, sometimes our dreams are completely shattered, and every single thing changes, our direction as we knew it. But maybe sometimes, our dreams shouldn’t come true… May they not come true. As we usher in the new year, listen what unknown saying:

‘May your dreams not come true…”
As a single sentence, that phrase may be off-putting or sound mean spirited. But the magic is what follows the ellipsis:

“… so that you may make room in your life for all wondrous things you couldn’t possibly dream of.’

Sometimes, learn to let go of what you dreamt off, what you knew, to make space for new beginnings. Let the failures of the last year remain there, and let not unease stop your heart before recalling there’s always magic brewing in our lives, and if we wait long enough we’ll see the sparkle. Open mind, open heart lala. You’re still here so keep fighting for yourself.

‘Hope that better things are always ahead’ ✨

Alrightttttt, cut! It’s a wrap!

Thank you to my babies, my friends and loves, Malebogo, Nako and Raquel who have contributed to this blog, the monthly proofreading and, keeping me sane 🥴 😂

Thank you to everyone who interacted with this blog, the shares, comments, all and any form of support. I have seen and appreciate every single one of you. I wish you all your hearts desire’s, that you achieve your wildest dreams and beyond. Let it be so.

Goodbye 🥺 I’ll be back with my Masters, and a million things and one to tell you about, and it’ll be exciting!

I leave you with his word today, Lomus’ ongaka wanele bonke ❤️